John Chrysostom

Therefore, let us not be provoked with these men, let us not use anger as an excuse, but let us talk with them gently and with kindness. Nothing is more forceful and effective than treatment which is gentle and kind. This is why Paul told us to hold fast to such conduct with all the earnestness of our hearts when he said, "The servant of the Lord must not be quarrelsome but must be kindly toward all." He did not say "only to your brothers" but "toward all." And again, when he said, "Let your gentleness be known," he did not say "to your brothers" but "to all men." What good does it do you, he means, if you love those who love you.