For if I make you sorrowful, who is he then that can make me glad, but the same who is made sorrowful by me?

“It is shameful, indeed, that they who are sick in body place so much confidence in physicians that, even if these cut or burn or cause distress by their bitter medicines, they look upon them as benefactors, while we do not share this attitude toward the physicians of our souls when they secure our salvation for us by laborious discipline. The apostle says, however: "Who is he then who can make me glad, but the same who is made sorrowful by me." … It behooves one who looks to the end, therefore, to consider him a benefactor who causes us pain which is according to God.”

“"For if I make you sorry, who then is he that maketh me glad, but he that is made sorry by me?" What is this consequence? A very just one indeed. For observe, I would not, he saith, come unto you, lest I should increase your sorrow, rebuking, showing anger and disgust. Then seeing that even this was strong and implied accusation that they so lived as to make Paul sorry, he applies a corrective in the words, "For if I make you sorry, who then is he that maketh me glad, but he that is made sorry by me?" What he saith is of this kind. "Even though I were to be in sorrow, being compelled to rebuke you and to see you sorry, still nevertheless this very thing would have made me glad. For this is a proof of the greatest love, that you hold me in such esteem as to be hurt at my being displeased with you." Behold too his prudence. Their doing what all disciples do, namely, smarting and feeling it when rebuked, he produces as an instance of their gratifying him; for, saith he, "No man maketh me so glad as he that giveth heed to my words, and is sorry when he seeth me angry." Yet what followed naturally was to say, "For if I make you sorry, who then is he that can make you glad?" But he doth not say this, but turns his speech back again, dealing tenderly with them, and says, "Though I make you sorry, even herein ye bestow on me a very great favor in that ye are hurt at what I say."”

“Aquinas began above with his general excuse concerning the delay in going to the Corinthians; here he intimates the cause of so great a delay, and how he spared them. And concerning this he does two things. First he intimates one cause of the delay to have been lest by his arrival he should bring them sorrow; second he shows another cause to have been lest the fruit which he hoped for among others, and had begun to produce, should be hindered, there when I had come, etc. Concerning the first he does two things. First he shows the cause of the delay to be in general, lest he should bring sorrow; second he speaks specially of a certain one who had grieved him, there but if any one has grieved me. Concerning the first he does three things. First he assigns the reason why he put off coming; second he assigns the cause of what was said, for if I have grieved, etc.; third he makes clear what he has said, there for out of much tribulation. He says therefore: I said that I did not come to you, sparing you, in this namely, that I did not wish you to be made sorrowful, therefore I determined, that is, I firmly resolved, this very thing with myself, which I proposed, when I sent the other epistle, Ecclus. 37:20: before all things a true word, etc. Lest again, that is, another time, in sorrow I should come to you, that is, that I should make you sorrowful. And the reason why he did not wish to make them sorrowful is that same reason by which the Lord did not wish his disciples to fast, namely to this end, that they might be moved to Christ by love and not by fear, and be joined to him. For the Lord wished them to be strengthened and nourished in faith, in all sweetness and desire of heart, and thus, being strengthened by love, they would not easily be torn away on account of tribulations, because many waters could not quench charity, Cant. 8:7. Likewise the Apostle does not wish to make them sorrowful for this reason. The reason for this saying, namely that he does not wish to make them sorrowful, he assigns when he says for if I grieve, etc. And concerning this he does two things. First he assigns the cause why he did not wish to make them sorrowful; second he makes clear why he signifies this to them, there and this very thing I wrote. He says therefore: the reason why I did not wish to come in sorrow is that your sorrow redounds into my sorrow, and I rejoice at your consolation, and you alone console me, when I am among you; hence, if I should come and make you sorrowful, I would be made sorrowful from your sorrow, and thus there would be no one to give me joy among you, who are made sorrowful by me, because one who is made sorrowful does not easily console another. Prov. 10:1: a wise son, etc. Prov. 29:3: a man who loves wisdom, etc. Or otherwise: there is a twofold sorrow. One according to the world; the other according to God, which works repentance unto salvation. The Apostle is not speaking of the first, but of the second. And he says: from this very thing I will be consoled, if I make you sorrowful, that is, if by rebuking I lead you back to repentance; but if I should come and see you not repenting of your sins, then I would have no consolation, because no one is made sorrowful and repents on account of me, that is, my correction and rebuke. But the reason why I write this to you is that you may so dispose yourselves that, when I come, I may not have sorrow over the fact that I have seen you uncorrected, added to the sorrow which I had when I heard that you had sinned. And concerning this he does two things. First he sets down the admonition; second he shows the hope of the fulfillment of the admonition, there trusting in all of you, etc. The admonition is this: therefore I wrote this to you, namely that I am made sorrowful over the sin committed by you, II Peter 2:8: with iniquitous works they tormented the just soul, etc., so that you may prepare and dispose yourselves by correcting, so that when I come to you, I may not have sorrow over the sins, concerning which, namely you, I ought to have rejoiced, that is, I ought to have been glad and to have congratulated, namely over your presence. Luke 15:10: there is joy to the angels of God, etc. But what hope he has concerning the fulfillment of his admonition, he adds, saying trusting concerning all of you, etc.; as if he were to say: I have this confidence concerning you, that you so dispose yourselves, that when I come, all of you may give me matter for joy. And this you ought to do gladly, because my joy, etc., that is, redounds to your joy, or is for the sake of your joy, which you have from the recovery of grace. I Tim. 2: which is my joy, etc. Rom. 12:15: to rejoice with those who rejoice, etc. But because someone might doubt about this, that he says lest, when I come, I should have sorrow upon sorrow, and might ask what sorrow he had concerning them, therefore he consequently explains this, saying for out of much tribulation, etc. And concerning this he does two things. First he makes clear the sorrow already had for some time; second he answers a certain tacit question, there not that you should be made sorrowful, etc. He says therefore first: because I would have sorrow, if I did not find you corrected, added to the sorrow which I had when you sinned, and I had to make you sorrowful by rebuking harshly. For out of much tribulation and anguish of heart I wrote the first epistle, through many tears, which I shed for you already dead through sin. Jer. 9:1: who will give to my head waters, etc. Ecclus. 22:3: it is a confusion to a father concerning an undisciplined son. Isa. 57:1: the just man perishes, and there is no one who considers, etc. But it must be known that he sets down two things for the aggravation of sorrow, namely tribulation and anguish, because the one added to the other aggravates the sorrow. For sometimes one is troubled, but without anguish, namely when by some adversity one is pricked as if by a very sharp thorn, and yet sees ways of escape open to him; but if none should be open, anguish is joined to the tribulation. He says therefore out of much tribulation, by which I was pricked in fact and over your evil, and anguish of heart, because I did not see whence a remedy could easily be applied, I wrote, etc. Ps. 118:143: tribulation and anguish have found me. But because they might say: O Apostle, do you even write these things to us that we may be made sorrowful, and therefore he removes this, saying not that you should be made sorrowful, namely I write those things to you, but that you may know what charity I have toward you. For there are two signs of love, namely that one rejoices at the good of another, and is made sorrowful at his evil, and I have these toward you. Below 5:14: the charity of Christ urges us. More abundantly, than you would believe, or more abundantly than toward others.”

“For if I make you sorry,.... That is, should he come among them, and be the means of fresh grief and sorrow: who is he then that maketh me glad? such was his love and affection for them, and sympathy with them, that should they be grieved, he should grieve also; they were the only persons he could take any delight in at Corinth; wherefore should they be in heaviness, he would be so too, and then what pleasure would he have in being among them? since not a man of them would be in a condition and capacity to make him cheerful: but the same which is made sorry by me. The Ethiopic version without any authority reads this clause, "except he whom I have made glad"; but the apostle is to be understood either of some particular man, the incestuous person, who had been made sorry, by that awful punishment of being delivered up to Satan, inflicted on him; or else the singular number being put for the plural collectively, is to be understood of all the members of the church at Corinth, who had been greatly grieved by the sharp reproofs he had given them; and therefore unless this trouble was removed, he could not expect to have much comfort and pleasure with them.”

“For if I make you sorry - Should he have come and used his apostolical authority, in inflicting punishment upon the transgressors, this would have been a common cause of distress. And though he might expect that the sound part of the Church would be a cause of consolation to him, yet as all would be overwhelmed with trouble at the punishment of the transgressors, he could not rejoice to see those whom he loved in distress.”

“Who is he that should make me glad? &c. The sense is to be gathered from the circumstances. He speaks of the Corinthian guilty of incest, whom he brought to sorrow and repentance, by excommunicating him in his former epistle, and now St. Paul rejoiceth at his conversion. (Witham) — The meaning of the apostle is, that if I had come to you in order to make you sorrowful, what pleasure could I have derived from your grief, since you are the only persons who can afford me any, the least comfort? What motives could have influenced me to undertake so disagreeable a mission? This is more fully explained in the following verse, which shows this to be the reason why he had written to them. (Calmet)”

“For--proof that he shrinks from causing them sorrow ("heaviness"). if I--The "I" is emphatic. Some detractor may say that this (Co2 2:1) is not my reason for not coming as I proposed; since I showed no scruple in causing "heaviness," or sorrow, in my Epistle (the first Epistle to the Corinthians). But I answer, If I be the one to cause you sorrow, it is not that I have any pleasure in doing so. Nay, my object was that he "who was made sorry by me" (namely, the Corinthians in general, Co2 2:3; but with tacit reference to the incestuous person in particular) should repent, and so "make me glad," as has actually taken place; "for . . . who is he then that?" &c.”