Wives, be subject to your husbands, as it behoveth in the Lord.

“I have taught fathers to teach their children instruction in the fear of the Lord, children to obey their parents in wholesome admonition; I have taught wives to love their own husbands, and to fear them as masters, and husbands to observe fidelity to their wives; I have taught masters to treat their slaves with clemency, and slaves to serve their own masters faithfully; I have taught the churches of the believers to reverence one almighty, invisible, and incomprehensible God.”

“For on natural principles it is more feasible for one to have dominion over many, than for many to have dominion over one. Nor can it be doubted, that it is more consonant with the order of nature that men should bear rule over women, than women over men. It is with this principle in view that the apostle says, "The head of the woman is the man;" and, "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands." So also the Apostle Peter writes: "Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord."”

“Once the general instruction to all has been laid down, here he begins to set down the special instruction. First he gives certain special teachings pertaining to the individual states within the Church; second, certain teachings common to all states with respect to certain conditions, in chapter IV, at "be instant in prayer." The first is divided into three, according to the three bonds from which a household is constituted, according to the Philosopher: of which one is that of husband and wife; the second, of father and son; the other, of master and servant. The second is at "children." The third, at "servants." Each of these is divided into two, according as he admonishes the subjects to obey, and the superiors to command with moderation. He therefore says wives, etc., and he says as is fitting, because this subjection is ordained by divine law. Gen. 3:16: "you shall be under your husband's power, and he shall have dominion over you." 1 Cor. 14:34: "let women keep silence in the churches, for it is not permitted them to speak, but to be subject, as the law also says." And the reason for this is that to rule belongs to reason; but men are stronger in reason, and therefore ought to preside. Likewise he adds in the Lord, because all things ordained to certain ends must be referred finally to God. Then he admonishes the husbands to love them, saying husbands, love your wives, for this is natural, since husband and wife are in a certain way one. Eph. 5:25: "husbands, love your wives," et cetera. And he forbids that they be bitter toward them. Mic. 1:12: "she who dwells in bitterness has grown weak unto good." Eph. 4:31: "let all bitterness, and anger, and indignation, and clamor, and blasphemy be taken away from you, with all malice." Then when he says children, etc., he deals with the second, and says children, obey in all things, namely, those things which are not against God. Heb. 12:9: "we have indeed had the fathers of our flesh for instructors, and we reverenced them," et cetera. But if they should command in matters that are against God, then that saying is to be understood which is said in Lk. 14:26: "if anyone comes to me and does not hate his father and mother," et cetera. And this, because this is well-pleasing to the Lord, that is, according to the law of the Lord, because the law of charity does not remove the law of nature, but perfects it. Now it is a law of nature that the son be subject to the care of the father. Ex. 20:12: "honor your father and your mother," et cetera. Then when he says fathers, do not, etc., he instructs the parents. Eph. 6:4: "and you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath," et cetera. And this, lest they become of small spirit, that is, lest they become fainthearted. And the reason for this is that men retain the impression which they had from childhood. Now it is natural that those who are reared in servitude should always be fainthearted. Whence a certain one gives this as the reason why the children of Israel were not led at once into the land of promise: because they had been reared in servitude, and would not have had the boldness to fight against enemies. Is. 35:4: "say to the fainthearted," et cetera. Then when he says servants, obey, he deals with the third; and first he sets down the admonition concerning servants; second he shows the reason, at knowing; third he excludes a doubt, at for he who. Concerning the first he does two things: first he admonishes them to obedience; second he determines the manner of obeying, at not to the eye. He says therefore servants, according to the condition of the flesh, obey in all things, namely those things which are not against God. 1 Pet. 2:18: "not only to the good and gentle, but also to the froward," et cetera. 1 Tim., last chapter: "whoever are under the yoke of servitude, let them esteem their masters worthy of all honor." Then when he says not to the eye, he teaches the manner of obeying. And he shows two manners of obeying: first, that it be simply and without deceit; second he shows that it be willingly. He says therefore not to the eye, namely, only insofar as it can be seen by the master. Eph. 6:6, similarly. And he says as pleasing men, because they serve in this manner only so as to please men. Gal. 1:10: "if I still pleased men, I would not be a servant of Christ." Therefore he adds but in simplicity of heart, etc., that is, without deceit, fearing the Lord, as in Job 1:1: "that man was simple and upright, and fearing God." Prov. 11:3: "the simplicity of the just shall guide them," et cetera. Likewise, willingly; hence he says whatsoever you do, from the heart, that is, readily, work. And this as to the Lord, because he who serves someone on account of the order of justice does this on account of God, from whom this order comes. Rom. 13:2: "he who resists authority resists the ordinance of God." Eph. 6:6: "doing the will of God from the heart, serving with good will, as," et cetera. Then when he says knowing, he shows a twofold reason for this: one on the part of reward, the other on the part of devotion to God. He says therefore: serve readily, because from the Lord you will receive the recompense of an eternal inheritance. Ps. 15:6: "the lines have fallen unto me in goodly places, yea, my inheritance is goodly unto me." Eph. 6:8: "knowing that whatsoever good thing each one shall have done, this he shall receive from the Lord, whether servant or free." For it was the opinion of some that an act of justice is not meritorious, because this seemed to be owed, and it is not meritorious to give someone what is his own. But it must be known that from the fact that you do it willingly, from this you put in something of your own, because it is within your power to will or not to will, and thus it is meritorious. Servants, however, serve their master out of debt, and therefore, that they may have a reward, they do this willingly. But serve them in such a way that you do not withdraw from God. Likewise another reason is that in this way you serve the Lord Christ. Rom. 12:11: "fervent in spirit, to the Lord," et cetera. Then when he says for he who, he removes a doubt. For a servant might say: how shall I serve one who does me wrong? And so he says: it is not yours to avenge yourself, by withholding from him what is his, but await it from him who is able, because he who does wrong, et cetera. 2 Cor. 5:10: "for we must all be made manifest before the judgment seat of Christ, that each may receive the things proper to the body, according to what he has done, whether good or evil." Eph. 6:9: "and there is no respect of persons with God." Acts 10:34: "God is not a respecter of persons." Then when he says masters, he shows how masters should conduct themselves toward servants. And concerning this he does two things: first he gives the teaching; second he renders the reason for it, at knowing. Now a master can burden his servants in two ways: namely, by doing against them what the justice of the law forbids, since according to the laws it is not lawful for a master to be savage toward a servant. Therefore he says what is just. Likewise, if he should exact the whole debt, which Christian gentleness mitigates. Therefore he says and equitable. Job 31:13: "if I have despised to submit," et cetera. Then when he says knowing, etc., the reason is given, because as you conduct yourself toward them, so the Lord toward you. Eph. 6:8: "knowing," et cetera.”

“The apostle concludes the chapter with exhortations to relative duties, as before in the epistle to the Ephesians. The epistles which are most taken up in displaying the glory of divine grace, and magnifying the Lord Jesus, are the most particular and distinct in pressing the duties of the several relations. We must never separate the privileges and duties of the gospel religion. I. He begins with the duties of wives and husbands (Col 3:18): Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. Submission is the duty of wives, hupotassesthe. It is the same word which is used to express our duty to magistrates (Rom 13:1, Let every soul be subject to the higher powers), and is expressed by subjection and reverence, Eph 5:24, Eph 5:33. The reason is that Adam was first formed, then Eve: and Adam was not deceived, but the woman, being deceived, was in the transgression, Ti1 2:13, Ti1 2:14. He was first in the creation and last in the transgression. The head of the woman is the man; and the man is not of the woman, but the woman of the man; neither was the man created for the woman, but the woman for the man, Co1 11:3, Co1 11:8, Co1 11:9. It is agreeable to the order of nature and the reason of things, as well as the appointment and will of God. But then it is submission, not to a rigorous lord or absolute tyrant, who may do his will and is without restraints, but to a husband, and to her own husband, who stands in the nearest relation, and is under strict engagements to proper duty too. And this is fit in the Lord, it is becoming the relation, and what they are bound in duty to do, as an instance of obedience to the authority and law of Christ. On the other hand, husbands must love their wives, and not be bitter against them, Col 3:19. They must love them with tender and faithful affection, as Christ loved the church, and as their own bodies, and even as themselves (Eph 5:25, Eph 5:28, Eph 5:33), with a love peculiar to the nearest relation and the greatest comfort and blessing of life. And they must not be bitter against them, not use them unkindly, with harsh language or severe treatment, but be kind and obliging to them in all things; for the woman was made for the man, neither is the man without the woman, and the man also is by the woman, Co1 11:9, Co1 11:11, Co1 11:12. II. The duties of children and parents: Children, obey your parents in all things, for this is well-pleasing unto the Lord, Col 3:20. They must be willing to do all their lawful commands, and be at their direction and disposal; as those who have a natural right and are fitter to direct them than themselves. The apostle (Eph 6:2) requires them to honour as well as obey their parents; they must esteem them and think honourably of them, as the obedience of their lives must proceed from the esteem and opinion of their minds. And this is well-pleasing to God, or acceptable to him; for it is the first commandment with promise (Eph 6:2), with an explicit promise annexed to it, namely, That it shall be well with them, and they shall live long on the earth. Dutiful children are the most likely to prosper in the world and enjoy long life. And parents must be tender, as well as children obedient (Col 3:21): "Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. Let not your authority over them be exercised with rigour and severity, but with kindness and gentleness, lest you raise their passions and discourage them in their duty, and by holding the reins too tight make them fly out with greater fierceness." The bad temper and example of imprudent parents often prove a great hindrance to their children and a stumbling-block in their way; see Eph 6:4. And it is by the tenderness of parents, and dutifulness of children, that God ordinarily furnishes his church with a seed to serve him, and propagates religion from age to age. III. Servants and masters: Servants, obey your masters in all things according to the flesh, Col 3:22. Servants must do the duty of the relation in which they stand, and obey their master's commands in all things which are consistent with their duty to God their heavenly Master. Not with eye-service, as men-pleasers - not only when their master's eye is upon them, but when they are from under their master's eye. They must be both just and diligent. In singleness of heart, fearing God - without selfish designs, or hypocrisy and disguise, as those who fear God and stand in awe of him. Observe, The fear of God ruling in the heart will make people good in every relation. Servants who fear God will be just and faithful when they are from under their master's eye, because they know they are under the eye of God. See Gen 20:11, Because I thought, Surely the fear of God is not in this place. Neh 5:15, But so did not I, because of the fear of God. "And whatsoever you do, do it heartily (Col 3:23), with diligence, not idly and slothfully:" or, "Do it cheerfully, not discontented at the providence of God which put you in that relation." - As to the Lord, and not as to men. It sanctifies a servant's work when it is done as unto God - with an eye to his glory and in obedience to his command, and not merely as unto men, or with regard to them only. Observe, We are really doing our duty to God when we are faithful in our duty to men. And, for servants' encouragement, let them know that a good and faithful servant is never the further from heaven for his being a servant: "Knowing that of the Lord you shall receive the reward of the inheritance, for you serve the Lord Christ, Col 3:24. Serving your masters according to the command of Christ, you serve Christ, and he will be your paymaster: you will have a glorious reward at last. Though you are now servants, you will receive the inheritance of sons. But, on the other hand, He who does wrong will receive for the wrong which he has done," Col 3:25. There is a righteous God, who, if servants wrong their masters, will reckon with them for it, though they may conceal it from their master's notice. And he will be sure to punish the unjust as well as reward the faithful servant: and so if masters wrong their servants. - And there is no respect of persons with him. The righteous Judge of the earth will be impartial, and carry it with an equal hand towards the master and servant; not swayed by any regard to men's outward circumstances and condition of life. The one and the other will stand upon a level at his tribunal. It is probable that the apostle has a particular respect, in all these instances of duty, to the case mentioned 1 Cor. 7 of relations of a different religion, as a Christian and heathen, a Jewish convert and an uncircumcised Gentile, where there was room to doubt whether they were bound to fulfil the proper duties of their several relations to such persons. And, if it hold in such cases, it is much stronger upon Christians one towards another, and where both are of the same religion. And how happy would the gospel religion make the world, if it every where prevailed; and how much would it influence every state of things and every relation of life!”

“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands,.... The apostle proceeds from those duties which related to them as church members one towards another, for their mutual good and edification, and the glory of God, to such as concerned them in their own houses and families, as in a natural relation to each other; as husbands and wives, parents and children, masters and servants; showing hereby, that the Gospel does not at all break in upon, but establishes the duties of common and civil life. Concerning the duty wives to their husbands, here exhorted to; see Gill on Eph 5:22. The reason urging to a regard to it is, as it is fit in the Lord; that is, Christ, as the Syriac version reads it. Subjection of wives to their own husbands is "fit" and proper in its own nature, by reason of the original creation of man, and of the woman from him: man was made first, and then the woman; and the woman was made out of the man, out of one of his ribs; and so, though not to be trampled under his feet, but to be by his side, and an help meet to him, yet not to be head, or to rule over him. Moreover, the woman was made for the man, and not the man for the woman; add to this, that the woman was in the transgression, and the means of the fall of man, which gave a fresh reason for, and made the obligation to subjection to him the stronger: and it is also a "decent" and becoming thing for wives to be subject to their husbands; for as it is giving honour to them, it is a real ornament to themselves, and is one of those good works which women professing godliness should adorn themselves with; and makes more comely and beautiful than broidered hair; gold, pearls, or costly array, yea, than their natural favour and beauty: it is what is fitting "in the Lord": it is what he requires, not only what the law of God requires, see Co1 14:34 and which was enjoined originally, see Gen 3:16 and was charged as a duty under the legal dispensation; but is what is commanded by Christ under the Gospel dispensation, and is to be observed by all those that are "in" him, that profess to be new creatures, converted persons, that so the word of God be not blasphemed, and the enemy have no occasion to reproach, see Tit 2:5 though this phrase may also be considered as a restriction and limitation of this subjection; that though it reaches to all things, yet only to such as are agreeable to the will of the Lord, and not contrary to the Gospel of Christ; for in these they are not to be subject to them, but to Christ the Lord; but in all other things they are, even as the church is subject to Christ: and when this is the case, such subjection is regarded by Christ as if it was done to himself; and indeed his honour and glory should be the governing view in it; see Eph 5:22.”

“Wives, submit yourselves - Having done with general directions, the apostle comes to particular duties, which are commonly called relative; because they only belong to persons in certain situations; and are not incumbent on all. No woman has the duty of a wife to perform but she who is one, and no man has the duty of a husband to perform but he who is married. The directions here to wives, husbands, children, parents, servants, and masters, are so exactly the same in substance with those in Eph 5:22-33 (note); Eph 6:1-9 (note), that there is no need to repeat what has been said on those passages; and to the notes there the reader is requested to refer. As it is fit in the Lord - God commands it; and it is both proper and decent.”